This is the second in a series of three posts where I look back at 2012. You can view the first post here.
As I noted before, I chose three words to guide my personal and professional life this past year. You can view the original post where I discuss these three words here.
Today, I continue the conversation with my thoughts on my second word for 2012 …
+ KINDNESS +
Here’s what I said about why I chose this word some twelve months ago:
My wife Heather is the kindest person I know. I need to emulate her and intentionally practice kindness. I will focus on being kinder to those around me and kinder to myself. I will work hard to break the shackles of low self-esteem and be kinder with myself. In my daily interactions with family, friends, co-workers and strangers … I will choose kindness.
Here’s where I’ve succeeded:
- I’ve been far better at keeping my opinions to myself and not pass judgement. I’m certainly not perfect at this, but my wife continues to be extremely influential in my growth in this area.
- I’ve executed a “random act of kindness” on a few occasions in the past year and have enjoyed seeing the reaction of those who’ve been on the receiving end.
- I’ve had some success in being kinder to myself. There is much work to be done on this front, but progress was made.
Here’s where I’ve failed:
- I have to be honest with myself and say that I have not always chosen kindness – this is especially true when it comes to those I love. I’ve taken my wife and kids for granted on more than one occasion and have expected then to accept my failure to choose kindness.
- Patience is not one of my gifts and, as a result, choosing kindness often goes by the wayside when I’m short on patience. To those who’ve been on the wrong end of that equation this past year, please accept my apology.
- On several occasions, I’ve failed to ne kind to myself. I’ve kicked myself when I was down and chose to be critical of my choices in times when I should have cut myself a “little slack”. Tomorrow is another day; an another opportunity to choose to be kinder to myself.
Kindness ought to be a permanent word for me and although it won’t be on the official list for 2013, it will be something I will keep working on in 2013.
Personal note: this was a difficult post to write. Nothing like sharing your failures with large audience …
Check back in the next day or so for my thoughts on my third (and final) word for 2012.
Until then, be well and make it a great day!