In about a week, I will be celebrating a birthday that will take me into a new decade. As I get closer to this date, I have done some deep thinking about my life. I have also used this opportunity to turn a dream into reality – releasing my first CD of original music (you can learn more about it by navigating through other pages on this site).
Aside from releasing this CD, I’ve had no other “mid-life crisis” moments – no desire to get a Harley or to do something radical and out of the ordinary – just several moments of reflections on subjects like friendships, relationships, career objectives moving forward and family.
My wife will tell you without hesitation that I have a thing for books. Amazon.com and I are good friends and the UPS driver knows the way to my house and even my garage door code.
Anyway, recently I have been given a lot of thoughts to the concept of having a personal advisory board or an inner circle. I’ve come to realize that for me, at this point in my life, it is important to have a key circle of people with whom I can feel safe, and in return, I can count on for unfiltered, honest feedback about how I can be a better leader, friend, husband and father.
Just a few days ago, I came across Keith Ferrazzi’s new book titled “Who’s Got Your Back”. I am only a few chapters into the book but was delighted to read about the concept of the inner circle albeit presented in a much better way. Ferrazzi speaks of “lifeline relationships” as being critical to ones success – again, I am just a few chapters in and I am very interested to learn more about his take on all of this.
All of this got me thinking about the key relationships in my life and how important they are to me and my future success. I can count on one hand the people I consider part of my inner circle – people I trust implicitly and who have no hidden agenda when it comes to me and are wholeheartedly committed to my success. In other words, these people have my back (to borrow from Ferrazzi’s book).
I also got to thinking about Jesus and his inner circle. Yes, during the heart of his ministry he had 12 followers but on the night before he died the bible story reads as follows (from Matthew 26):
37Taking Peter and the two sons of Zebedee with him, he began to be grieved and troubled. 38Then he said to them, “I’m so deeply grieved that I feel I’m about to die. Wait here and stay awake with me.”
Even with 12 followers, on the night before he died, Jesus brought his inner circle to the Garden of Gethsemane.
So, in the words of Keith Ferrazzi, which relationships in your life can be labelled as being “lifeline relationships”?
The inner circle has merit. In moments of great success, members of your inner circle will keep you grounded. In moments of great darkness, they will be the light you need. In ordinary moments, your inner circle with keep you accountable, speak the truth, and always have your back.
Who’s in your inner circle?