Just recently, I sat through an interesting conversation with a group of people and it became absolutely clear to me (pardon the pun) that opaqueness does not have a place in crucial conversations.
My trusted Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary defines Opaque (adj) as follows:
a: hard to understand or explain; b: obtuse, thickheaded
Here’s the thing, being clear about our intentions, taking ownership of our words and our opinions on a specific matter must be our first and only consideration. Throughout the aforementioned conversation, I witness this individual dance around the subject at hand; refuse to clearly state her concern; abdicate any ownership of her comments; and, completely hijack the conversation.
I am at my best when I am open, honest and take ownership of my opinion, words and feelings. I am sure you are too.
So, let’s take matters into our hands and clear away any opaqueness we might want bring to the conversation at hand.
Let’s endeavor to:
- Be clear.
- Make it easy for people to understand where we are coming from.
- Quick dancing around the issue.
- Be open to the possibilities.
I might be wrong, but I think the conversation I witnessed might have had a different outcome if the individual in question had followed this simple advice. Just sayin’…